In the interest of the "BOSSY" Controversy: One time, when I was about 8, I was in the gifted program at my elementary school. We had to do a group project on a book. It was a huge undertaking that involved bringing in food, writing short stories, creating artwork, etc. all involving our book.
I got called into the principal's office one day, which totally bewildered me. Apparently a little boy I had been working with in the group (or more likely his parents,) thought that I was too "bossy" while working with their son on the group project. That's the word they used, bossy, and I was horrified and humiliated for being perceived this way. Mostly because I had NO IDEA that I was doing something "wrong." OF COURSE I wouldn't have acted "bossy" if I thought it was a bad thing. I thought I was leading the group since no one else was stepping up to the plate.
Well, That's what leaders do. That kid is a follower, and we probably wouldn't get along today. I've been reading about this "bossy" controversy and it had made me rethink how I feel about this story. For years now, because of this, I have really consciously tried to not be perceived as bossy. But I have changed the definition to making an effort to hear other's points of view before arguing why mine is better. Some people find this abrasive. Others may even call it "bossy." But in my mind, if it's really your viewpoint, you have REASONS to back it up. Therefore my reasons could debate your reasons and we could come to a nice conclusion.
However, more often than not, people cave and just say "you're right" or "let's do it your way." Hey guys, guess what? If you do that, I'm not being bossy. You're being submissive. Probably because of a lack of reasons for your viewpoint. This fault is not on me but instead on the many kids (and now adults) that I grew up with who weren't taught to debate. And that's not my fault. I'm now bossy and proud, cause I wanna get shit done and move forward with solutions. And if you have something better to offer, you should suggest it. Loudly.
As you can see, I've been reading several articles about the controversy over the word "bossy" lately. Presumably because of the following website:
Ok, so after reading about that for a bit I saw a few related articles online, and I have to say I'm more inclined to agree with these pitches:
I decided to post on Facebook the above story, which I have edited for language. So what do you think?